Online Therapy in Alberta for Narcissistic Abuse

You may have spent a long time trying to understand what happened, questioning your own perceptions, or wondering why you are still affected when the relationship has ended.

Maybe you find yourself replaying conversations, second guessing your decisions, or wondering if you were too sensitive or should have handled things differently.

When you have been in a relationship where your feelings were dismissed, your reality was questioned, or your needs were repeatedly minimized, it can deeply affect the way you see yourself and trust your own experiences.

One of the most painful parts of narcissistic abuse is that the harm is often not obvious from the outside.

You may have experienced moments of kindness, connection, or hope alongside moments of confusion, hurt, and emotional pain. This inconsistency can make it difficult to understand what happened and can leave you questioning yourself long after the relationship has changed or ended.

Narcissistic abuse can take many forms. Sometimes it is subtle and difficult for others to recognize. 

Other times it may involve more obvious patterns of control, intimidation, exploitation, or emotional harm.

Regardless of how it looked, living in a relationship where you felt unseen, unheard, blamed, or responsible for keeping things okay can slowly impact your sense of safety, self trust, and connection with yourself.

• Emotional invalidation or dismissal of your inner experience
• Manipulation or coercive dynamics
• Gaslighting or sustained self-doubt about your perception of reality
• Chronic criticism, blame, or conditional acceptance
• Emotional neglect or lack of responsiveness in relationships
• Patterns of control, power imbalance, or emotional unpredictability

• Your reality being questioned, minimized, or reframed
• Your needs consistently dismissed or treated as unreasonable
• Responsibility being shifted in ways that create confusion or self-blame
• Connection that feels inconsistent, unpredictable, or emotionally unsafe

Over time, these experiences can shape how you see yourself and how you relate to others.

You may notice patterns that reflect how your mind and nervous system adapted to relational stress, including:

• Overriding your own perceptions to maintain connection or avoid conflict
• Scanning for approval, rejection, or subtle emotional shifts in others
• Doubting your internal signals and relying on external validation
• People-pleasing, fawning, or quickly apologizing to reduce tension
• Overexplaining or overanalyzing to prevent misunderstandings
• Freezing, shutting down, or going blank during emotional intensity
• Replaying interactions and second-guessing what was said or meant
• Feeling urgency to repair connection or restore emotional safety
• Difficulty saying no, or guilt after setting boundaries
• Anxiety, panic, or body-based activation after interactions, with anger sometimes turned inward or surfacing later as overwhelm

These patterns often develop for survival in relationships, not by choice.

My work is grounded in a trauma informed, attachment focused approach. This means we pay attention not only to what happened, but also to what it was like for you to live through those experiences and how they shaped your emotional patterns, nervous system responses, relationships, and sense of yourself.

I am a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Clinician through Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s training program, with specialized training in understanding narcissistic abuse, relational trauma, trauma bonds, and the complex dynamics that can develop in these relationships.

I also have personal experience with narcissistic abuse, trauma, and recovery. This lived experience has deepened my understanding of how confusing, painful, and isolating these experiences can be.

You do not have to spend our time trying to prove the impact of what happened or explain why it affected you so deeply.

In our work together, we gently explore how these experiences continue to show up in your life today, including trauma responses, self doubt, difficulty trusting yourself, and patterns that developed to help you cope or feel safe.

I want to get to know you as a person, not just what you have been through or what you are struggling with. I want to understand what shaped you, what matters to you, and what healing looks like for you.

Together, we work toward rebuilding trust in your own perceptions, emotions, and inner wisdom while creating a stronger sense of safety, self respect, and connection with yourself.

If you are still navigating a relationship with someone who is emotionally harmful or unpredictable, part of our work may involve understanding these dynamics and learning ways to stay grounded during contact.

Together, we can explore strategies that help you protect your emotional well being, maintain clarity, and stay connected to yourself while responding in ways that do not pull you back into old survival patterns such as appeasing, overexplaining, or taking responsibility for someone else’s emotions.

Over time, healing becomes less about trying to figure everything out and more about feeling different in your own life: more settled, more present, and more able to trust yourself again.

Healing after narcissistic abuse is not only about understanding what happened. It is also about rebuilding the relationship you have with yourself.

In our work together, we gently explore how these experiences continue to affect you in the present, including your emotions, body responses, relationships, and sense of self.

We make space for the different parts of you that developed through these experiences.

There may be a part of you that questions yourself.

A part that tries to keep the peace or prevent conflict.

A part that feels responsible for other people’s emotions.

A part that still carries hurt, fear, shame, or the longing to finally feel understood and cared for.

These parts are not broken. They developed for a reason.

Through trauma informed and experiential therapy, including approaches such as EMDR and parts work, we work with what still feels stuck so you can begin rebuilding trust in yourself and creating a deeper sense of safety and connection.

The goal is not only to understand what happened, but to help you feel more grounded, more confident in yourself, and more able to move forward with clarity and self trust.

Over time, healing becomes less about trying to figure everything out and more about feeling different in your own life: more settled, more present, and more able to trust yourself again.

Starting therapy can feel like a big step, especially if you’ve spent a long time holding things on your own. If you’re wondering whether this feels like a good fit, I offer a free 15-minute consultation. It’s a space to ask questions, get a sense of how I work, and see whether it feels supportive for you.